Could I have a moment of your time?

Dear readers and what have you,

I would like to take a moment to address an ongoing issue. I’m all for getting messages about suggestions or things my readers would like to see. I can be open-minded. At times however the story is already set in stone as it’s been prewritten and I’m merely editing and adding things here and there as I go. However, I do have a problem with people that get downright rude or bossy. People that throw little hissy fits when they don’t get their way. First, it was because I wasn’t using Bella. I’ve been using Bella for THREE years folks. It was a great adventure, but as I’ve said before, I’m leaning towards making this an actual career. I can’t do that writing Bella fanfiction. I have to take that leap and step towards original work. Galway Girls is an excellent lead towards that. What I don’t get are the people that cut it down before they even give it a chance. Riona and Aislinn are fucking badasses too! It doesn’t have to be Bella to make it a good story. I mean honestly, do you buy books hoping for Bella Swan to be the main lead? I think not. Life needs variety. I need variety. I love my characters and haven’t any regrets. My female leads will always be strong, even if it’s a lead-up, they usually always get there. Give it a chance before you go and dump on me with nasty messages about new stories, returning to unfinished works, and telling me how you won’t read something because it isn’t Bella.

You don’t have to read anything I write. That is fine. But sending me messages letting me know (rudely) that you won’t read my latest story because I shot myself in the foot since I didn’t use freaking Bella. I get so many PRIVATE messages about this, I want to vomit. It’s one thing to put it nicely and make suggestions. It’s something else entirely to threaten and come off sounding like a goddamn bully. I’m a grown woman with a husband and kids. I don’t have the time or energy to deal with that kind of negativity or drama. This is a FREE service. Either give the new story a chance and see what my new girls are like. Or suck it up and move onto something else until I’m updating my unfinished works. I will let you know when I am getting to those. I know I am behind on Altered Paths as of late and I do plan on getting to that. But as you already know, I have to go with the muse and see where it takes me. I will not force something because my heart wouldn’t be in it and the chapters wouldn’t be worth anyone’s time if I don’t put my all into them. I think people forget that writers aren’t robots standing behind a desk 24/7. We are people with lives of our own, feelings, and it takes a lot of work to get just one single chapter put out. I spend hours upon hours working on one chapter. I share my stories with others because I want to offer you the same joy and time away from the real world. That’s what my stories do for me. That’s why I write instead of smoking or drinking when I’m stressed or having an episode of depression. It truly is the therapy I need and tend to use most. So when there are a handful of people trying to take that away from me; I get defensive and will not apologize for that. That’s like taking someone’s heaven and shitting on it and telling them to deal because it should be YOUR way or the highway.I write for myself just as much as I do for any of you.

There is one more thing that bothers me, and I’ve kept my trap shut for YEARS on this issue. Why are the ones doing the negative messages and harassing the same ones that NEVER leave a single review?! They go into my fanfiction account or FB and privately message me to complain but when they say they like a story, not a single like or review. It’s like they ONLY use the system to bring people down and be jerks about things. I’m all for getting constructive criticism. At times it can sting a little, but it’s better when the person trying to help and not being an absolute dick. I’ve had readers that leave reviews or give me likes that can message me and say hey just a suggestion, or it might help if… Eight times out of ten I take that person’s advice and will thank them for it. I don’t always and can admit that if it doesn’t fit the story or if I simply don’t have the means of going the direction they want. Sometimes it can be about my spelling, punctuation, or grammar. I can admit to not being the greatest with those things. I am doing what I can to fix it and am self-taught in that department. Just keep in mind that not everyone has the education others have. That doesn’t mean you have the right to tell them they shouldn’t be writing at all. That’s just shitty and makes you an asshole. Don’t crush other people’s dreams just because you’re anal about grammar, punctuation, and spelling. I don’t say this for myself but fellow writers who have been harassed and went as far as to quit even because people couldn’t lay off.

That’s how much these messages can affect someone. And I know it’s easy for people to say ignore them etc. I have been for a long time. But even I have bad days to where it becomes TOO much, and I feel like throwing the towel in and being done because I don’t feel very appreciated. World’s smallest violin is playing, I know. But I have feelings too. I have drama outside of the fandom worlds. I have a husband and kids and other family I look out for. All it takes is a single feather to have all that come tumbling down, and you could be the one that adds that feather, whether you mean to or not. Just keep that in mind.

I know if I ever become professional I will have to deal with these things, even more so than I do now. I think what irks me right now is I do this out of the kindness of my heart and because I want to. No one is paying me or any other fanfic writer for their services. All we ask for is a simple like or review in return. That’s it. I don’t think that much to ask. Now if I were getting paid that would be different. That would give people more of a reason to be picky and send you messages regarding certain things because they are investing in you. That I can understand. But even at that… There is never a reason to be ugly, rude or a bully. We’re better than that, all of us. So if any of you feel like you need to send ANYONE a nasty message, take a moment to reflect on how that would come off and how it would make you feel if it were the other way around. You go to make your kids lunch for the day and check your email and your whole day is ruined from there. People might laugh and say why let it get to you? Well, if it was just the one I could shrug it off. But I have been getting these a lot more since I made the decision to move forward and not use Bella with future works. When they come in handfuls, and you find yourself getting those kinds of messages OVER reviews and or likes. That’s enough to make anyone question themselves and what they’re doing with their lives.

For two days I’ve had to talk myself out of quitting. And for those that truly know me, that is a HUGE deal because I always said nothing and no one could knock me down like that. Well, it happened. It’s been a long time since I felt this way, but I did. To those sending these messages, I’m sure you’re rolling your eyes, sighing, laughing, calling me a whiny bitch, etc.… But you don’t get the domino effect this could cause. I quit writing, and people that count on me are let down too. Like me, they turn to my writing for an escape. So I’m not the only one that would be left in a depression or have something I loved taken away from me. I don’t think myself weak for writing this. No. I believe you are weak that you have to resort to something like that in order to get your point across. When I say “you’re” I’m talking to the ones sending these messages. Only a weak minded person would attack someone they don’t know. You have to be weak because a stronger person would be able to think up a way to word those things differently and reach out rather than put down.

Readers, please show your appreciation to ALL WRITERS YOU FOLLOW! It takes just a minute or two out of your time to leave that like or a review. Make that writer’s day because you never know when they could be having the most horrible of days or getting the shittiest of messages. That ONE review could be that rescue they need. That one LIKE could be the smile they wanted. And if you feel the need to point out something constructive, do so with class. Number one rule in life should be don’t be a DICK! If you’re going to be a dick move on. Don’t read something you don’t want to read. There is no need in sending private messages and being ugly. That’s a very douchy thing to do.

Now, I’m going to get back to my writing. I will post notices on when I’m updating my other works, including Altered Paths. I know you guys are waiting and I do apologize. I’m doing my best. But I do thank you immensely for being patient and not sending me threatening or bullying-like messages. Thank you for being a decent person that knows life just gets in the way at times, and I’m human.

 

Love to all from your fav clown,

Harley.

 

30 thoughts on “Could I have a moment of your time?”

  1. Oh my god.. Don’t let the assholes stop you hon. if they don’t like what you are doing they don’t have to read it. they don’t need to have an opinion of the story that doesn’t hold their interest. big deal no bella… Bella wouldn’t fit into this story. its not a *bella themed* story they don’t like they can piss off..

    *holds on to the bitey dogs smiling when then they see their prey growling at them* Gib Laut! *making them bark to startle them and to make their prey start running for them* Yelling PAKKEN!!!! *letting the dogs go to chase down the ones that has upset the fabulous author and her muse*

    Until next time *bows*

  2. I can’t believe you are having to deal with this crappy douchery again. Everything you said is common sense for normal decent human beings. Unfortunately there seems to be a lot of assholes that have WAY too much time on their hands and NOTHING good in their hearts and souls. I’m giving you a virtual hug. —squeezes— 🙂
    Honestly what you and so many other writers have to deal with is why I have been a total scaredy cat to try writing anything of my own. Maybe 1 day…..
    Tracey

  3. I got the baseball bat if you wanna bust knee caps! Keep doing you and please don’t quit writing. I admit I am waiting to read Galaway Girls but thats only because I enjoy reading your stories in their totality.

  4. Truthfully? I didn’t start reading your stories because of Bella, since I can’t stand her in canon. I started because of………DEADPOOL! And Spiderman (anything planned, eventually, for the new Spider guy?) That’s right, the gal who doesn’t religiously follow/funko pop/write or otherwise fangirl over Marvel, started reading because you have DeadPool, dead on!
    I will read Galway Girls (do you, by chance, listen to Celtic Thunder?) once it’s complete since my binge reading and your muse don’t synch so well, lol.
    You keep on truckin’, and writing when and where you can. I’ll still be here on the flip side (yes, I’m dating myself), ready to cheer,or commiserate, or otherwise take an aluminum baseball bat to the zombie’s heads, or kneecaps; or with the duct tape so the morons can no longer type their rudeness 😀 ;). They will, however, be able to spout, we just won’t be able to hear them, lmao.

    1. I haven’t heard of them but now I gotta look it up! And that’s freaking awesome about Deadpool lol. I haven’t decided yet on the new Spider-Man but that could be a possibility. I do adore me some Tom Holland. I understand about the binge reading I do that to when I read something. I totally get it. I will get it done and you can read it then. All good.

      1. :).
        Celtic Thunder are a totally awesome group! More in the line of Vaudeville or Shakespearean Theater, but just the Galway Girls title makes me think of them. If you want to just have fun watch A Place in the Choir or Seven Drunken Nights! Both are hilarious, and the youngest member in those has the most awesome bass voice! He was also on Glee!

  5. I can’t believe people are still so damn ridiculous. If they don’t like the direction you’re taking your stories then maybe they should try doing it if they thing it’s that easy. I can guarantee they won’t get very far. Like you said your stories are my escape into another world. The way you write characters makes me fall in love with them no matter who the stars or background characters are. It’s hard to ignore the comments, I know that because I get it everyday from blood, but you have your true supporters behind you and they will follow all the way.

  6. Reblogged this on Kittyinaz and commented:
    This. This right here is something everyone should read. Harley says it clearly what can happen. I’ve had the bad reviews where I think of why I should continue. I’ve also dealt with depression that makes it feel impossible to write.

    And sometimes, it is reviews that can make the difference.

    I say a huge thank you to the people reviewing right now. It is making me want to write, and that’s a dang good thing. It was beginning to feel like a chore and that people didn’t really appreciate it. Instead I’m motivated to start, and in fact grumping about a quilt I need to make first.

    So please take time to read this, and think. Before you write a bad review, or never review at all.

  7. While I’m not really in the fanfic loop much right now (time + life getting in the way = ugh), I totally agree.

    Fanfic writers are a vaguely masochistic breed. We spend our own time, energy, “blood/sweat/tears” and tons of coffee to provide a free service to an audience that, by a vast majority, we’ll never actually meet. In return, we don’t actually expect much more than common civility…but at the very least, we should be able TO expect that common civility.

    I’ve always thought it strange, then, when a reader (and sometimes you do have to question if that person actually even DID read the story/chapter…) complains about the free lit they’ve CHOSEN to read. I just don’t understand complaining – life’s too short, close the tab and trawl the interwebs till they find something else.

    All that being said, though, gotta admit – truly good reviews really DO stoke the writing energy. (That does not include the “update soon” type, though. Those get the patented “whatever” fake grin as they’re deleted. Don’t waste my time with that mess.) Tell me what you liked or, nicely, what you didn’t like about the chapter. Did it flow well? Were the characters on point? Was the action believable? What did you feel the characters meant by their words or actions? Demanding updates tells me you liked the free entertainment I’m providing…and that you feel entitled to more of it. Stop that. (Pet peeve’o’mine) If I’ve spent 10+ hours on a chapter, a reader’s 2 minute review really can make that difference.

    Sorry for the ramble – totally agree with you and wish you the very best!

  8. “Why are the ones doing the negative messages and harassing the same ones that NEVER leave a single review?!”

    I think you answered your own question with: That’s just shitty and makes you an asshole.

    And they happen to be feckless c*nts.

    They’re not your parent, they don’t keep a roof over your head, feed you, or pay your bills, so fuck ’em.

    Hang in there, Harley.

  9. Hang in there. These people are the ones who are jealous of your work and the ones who have storylines, they just never put down in writing. You inspired me to continue writing when I felt like I should stop doing what I loved, though I am slowly getting back into the groove of it. You are awesome don’t let anybody say otherwise.

  10. Sorry your having to deal with this. I’ve loved every story of yours I’ve read and reviewed. I’m looking forward to your original characters in Galaway Girls just waiting until it’s done. But I’ll admit I’ll probably start it soon cuz I love Chibs.
    Hugs to you.

  11. Il ne savent pas ce qu’il loupe en tout cas , la dernière histoire j’adore et j’ai toujours hâte de lire la suite 😉

  12. To be honest, I am not a Bella fan, I am a True Blood addict and I just LOVE all of your True Blood stories and I try to leave a comment when I can, my problem is I read them mostly at my day job as I work 2 jobs and it’s hard to try to read them at home as I am beat when I get home, lol!
    Don’t listen to the naysayers!!!! You are a GREAT write and to be honest piss on them that try to tell you to use something that you don’t want to… it’s YOUR story!!!

    A very very avid True Blood fan (especially of Eric, lol)
    Mary

    1. ❤ thank you. But I do believe you have me confused with another writer. I don't write True Blood stories. Though I do love True Blood just never got around to it. The writer ticked me off with the ending… lol.

  13. Babe, you write for YOU. Who cares what other people think?

    Experimenting is FUN. For the 15 years that I’ve been writing fandoms, I’ve written my way through A LOT of fandoms. You change. Your stories change. If people can’t handle that, then that’s their problem.

    I had someone leave a review or two on a story I wrote with Meeko on my website and she found the Bella pathetic and stupid. I told them that’s their problem. We love the Bella we’ve created for that story and that’s what’s important.

    I’m currently writing a Bella-less crossover with The Originals using my OC Myriam. Because I, too, need a break from Bella. If people won’t like it when I start posting it, then so be it. But we all need to hold on to the little sanity we have left and after a few years of telling Bella stories, a change is needed!

    You’re an awesome writer, Harley. Don’t let the negative idiots pull you down because in the end, you write for you and you choose to decide to share it with the world. That doesn’t make your readers entitled for you to write stories they like.

    xx

  14. You’re not the only one straying from Bella and Twilight, getting bored from it and wanting to do more. As Buggy said, she’s doing a Bella-less fic. But what she left out is that there is a little bit of Bella. She is beginning to take her frustrations out on the character and there is a mention of creating an Isabella and then later when she is brought up again, is brutally taken care of (insert evil delicious grin).

    I myself am doing a funky crossover as well that as an Isabella and character names from Twilight in a scene or two but they aren’t very favorable so far. I’m just revolting against writing her so much I suppose. In fact, to be honest she’s kind throwing an epic tantrum to being tossed out.

    I still have many bunnies that uses Bella that I could still write and may still do or change it to OC or something else but readers really need to get over themselves. I suppose Buggy and I been blessed that we haven’t really had many abusive ones like you’ve gotten. I don’t think I could take it as frequently as you’ve had. Most of the criticism I let roll off, like the one Buggy mentioned in her comment about our joint fic. Then again some people just can’t handle a strong dominating Bella when she gets tired of being pushed around.

    Fuck them. You write you. 💕🍻🍷

  15. First time replyer, long time reader. Love your work. You are the first writer where I have gone and watched a tv show just so i can read one of your new fanfictions! Please don’t let the idiots get you down. Jealously is a terrible emotion and they only lash out as they know they can never achieve your greatness! I have your website stuck to my home screen so I can check for regular updates. And I’m sure if you went pro, you’ll find so much support.
    Whilst I love the fact you made Bella not a whiney emo cry baby, it shows you can succeed with original characters, as your Bella is so unique!

  16. Your story are soo good, i love those i’m waiting for the email to alert me of your update ( sorry for my bad english i’l french lol ), i don’t understand those people seriouly i will not called them name but i’m disappointed in people, i try to write a fanfiction and i was having so many ideas but went i want to write them down i block so to confort me i read other works. If you quit for those anmals ( yeah there are animals with no manners and no brain for me lol ) , i will be sad but i will understand event the best can brake. And your the best writter i have read it’s to bad that your page is not with acceptance only you know like you can accept people but if there are acting like you kick them out but i know that will take event much time (sorry it’s long ) . So to cloose my comment continu YOUR ARE AN AMAZING WOMAN WITH SO MUCH TALENT DON’T LET THOSE PEOPLE KEEP YOU DOWN even if i know it’s hard , DON4T LOOSE FAITH IN YOUR SELF, YOUR WORTH EVERY SECONDE I PASS READING YOU ! So don’t give up and if you do i will understand and will thank you for the amazing story you have published! ❤ ❤

  17. I for one have tremendous respect for anyone who can put themselves out to the world and share what they write. To have the ability to even put the story together and I always respect that and I always try to review hell I’ve hadn’t time with older stories where I am stopping myself from commenting on every chapter lol. Not nearly as much due to some authors mentioning they love it. As for punctuation I don’t let those thing bother me at all. I’m sorry the grammar police piss me off and ive been known to snap don’t correct me like I’m your damn child. Now I haven’t read your new story as I’ve tried very hard to take a break from FanFiction in general. Too darn wrapped up into these fandoms burning me the hell out. The Honestly for the people harping on incomplete stories jeez follow the author or story move on and discover something else and like me be pleasantly elated when you see a update. You kittyinaz geezerwench and a few others I can rely on to reread over and over. So f the haters and hell embrace them. You have your mind on what You want to accomplish and you have a shit ton of people like me who appreciate all you do. Keep rocking on love.

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